32. Grieving over a deceased Person
حَدَّثَنَا حِبَّانُ بْنُ مُوسَى، أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ، أَخْبَرَنَا يُونُسُ بْنُ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عُقَيْلٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ تَأْمُرُ بِالتَّلْبِينِ لِلْمَرِيضِ وَلِلْمَحْزُونِ عَلَى الْهَالِكِ، وَكَانَتْ تَقُولُ إِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ " إِنَّ التَّلْبِينَةَ تُجِمُّ فُؤَادَ الْمَرِيضِ، وَتَذْهَبُ بِبَعْضِ الْحُزْنِ
Narrated 'Urwa:
Aisha used to recommend at-Talbina for the sick and for such a person as grieved over a dead person. She used to say, "I heard Allah's Messenger ﷺ saying, 'at-Talbina gives rest to the heart of the patient and makes it active and relieves some of his sorrow and grief.
- Illness: Grieving over a deceased Person
- Cure: Take at-Talbina
Talbina (التَّلْبِينَة) is a soft porridge made from ground barley. It is usually cooked with water, then milk is added, and often honey. The name comes from Laban (milk) because the cooked porridge looks pale and creamy like milk. It is a gentle, easily digested food, which is why it is linked with the sick and the grieving.
A straightforward way to make it.
- Mix two tablespoons of barley flour (or finely ground barley) into one cup of cold water.
- Simmer for about 10 minutes, stirring, until it thickens.
- Add one cup of milk and cook gently for a few more minutes.
- Sweeten with a little honey if you like.
- Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari 5689